(Last Updated On: January 20, 2018)
Some time ago, I sent out a few letters of apology and made some calls.
The long and short of the matter is that I received favorable responses from all. I put aside my feelings, humbled myself and reached out, despite the length of time that has passed. This is a milestone for me. It shows that I have matured.
More importantly, though, the journey to self-improvement and maturity, had revealed certain faults I had. I was forced to take look deep within myself. There I discovered that the person living inside was quite ugly at times and I was hard on myself for it. It is one thing to acknowledge one’s flaws, but it is another thing to carry the responsibility of hurting or offending others, whether you thought you were right or not. Especially those who have passed on into eternity, and therefore, cannot accept an apology.
Maturity comes at a cost
What most people don’t know is that as you mature, it is as though a spotlight is turned on and illuminates your imperfections. You are transported to moments in time where you erred. The reason for that is simple. It’s for you to acknowledge those mistakes, take responsibility, learn from those moments and heal, so you can move on. That phase of the initial healing process is very difficult to deal with, if not managed properly.
Apologize and be free
- It purges the soul of needless clutter and provides a sense of healing
- It doesn’t matter whether people reciprocate the apology
- Life is too short to continue on its journey with extra baggage
- It is very important to apologize in order to move forward
- Take responsibility for past mistakes without blaming anyone
- Be sincere!
How to go about apologizing
The medium chosen depends on a number of things. You decide whether to
- speak in person
- write a letter
That doesn’t matter in my opinion. The objective is to accomplish the task at hand. You will know which medium best suits you according to the situation that had transpired in the past and the person you are apologizing to. Someone once illustrated un-forgiveness like this… “It’s like placing the other person in a headlock but in this state, none of you can truly go anywhere.”
It will always be a part of your consciousness, convicting and reminding you that something is unresolved. Don’t bury it any longer. Email or call that person(s) now, apologize and move on. Please share your experience after you have done so.
Be a better human being!
Do it now!
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