Some time ago, I sent out a few letters of apology and made some calls. I put aside my feelings, humbled myself and reached out despite the length of time that had passed. The long and short of the matter is that I received favorable responses from all. This was a milestone for me. It showed me that I had matured (beyond thinking about my own feelings).
More importantly, the journey to maturity had revealed certain faults I had. I was forced to take look deep within myself. There, I discovered that the person living inside was quite unattractive at times.
It is one thing to acknowledge your flaws, but it’s another to carry the burden of hurting or offending others (whether you thought you were right). Especially, if some have passed on and so, cannot accept an apology.
Maturity Comes at a Cost
As we mature, it’s as though a spotlight is turned on and begins to highlight our imperfections. We are taken back down memory-lane to moments in time where we erred and we begin to see the situation a bit more clearly. This is so we acknowledge our mistakes, own them, learn from the experience, and move on. Maturity does come at a cost, but it’s worth it.
Apologize and Be Free
- It purges the soul of needless clutter and provides a sense of healing
- It doesn’t matter whether people reciprocate the apology
- Life is too short to continue on its journey with extra baggage
- It is very important to apologize in order to move forward
- We must take responsibility for past mistakes without blaming anyone
- Be sincere!
How to Go About Apologizing
The medium chosen depends on many things. You decide whether to
- speak in person
- write a letter
* this will depend on the person
The medium shouldn’t matter for most, as the primary aim is to apologize (I know this will be debatable) but you will know which medium is appropriate according to:
- The situation that had transpired in the past
- The person you are apologizing to
Perhaps, you should follow up with a call if you are uncertain about the email.
Someone once illustrated unforgiveness like this… “It’s like placing the other person in a headlock but in this state, none of you can truly go anywhere.”
It will always be eating away at your conscience, convicting and reminding you that something is unresolved. Don’t rob yourself of living a life with a clear conscience. Call that person(s) now, apologize and move on.
Please share your experience after you have done so.
Be a better human being. Do it now.