How to Apologize and Move on – Let Go!


(Last Updated On: July 24, 2018)

Apology accepted!

Some time ago, I sent out a few letters of apology and made some calls. I put aside my feelings, humbled myself and reached out, despite the length of time that has passed. The long and short of the matter is that I received favorable responses from all. This was a milestone for me. It showed that I had matured.
 
More importantly, the journey to maturity had revealed certain faults I had.  I was forced to take look deep within myself. There, I discovered that the person living inside was quite unattractive at times.

long straight road

It is one thing to acknowledge your flaws, but it’s another to carry the burden of hurting or offending others (whether you thought you were right or not).  Especially those who have passed on into eternity and so – cannot accept an apology.

Maturity Comes at a Cost

As we mature, it’s like a spotlight is turned on and shines on our imperfections.  We are taken back down memory-lane to moments in time, where we erred.  The is for us to acknowledge those mistakes, own them, learn from the experience, and move on.

Apologize and Be Free

Olive branch
Offering the olive branch
  • It purges the soul of needless clutter and provides a sense of healing
  • It doesn’t matter whether people reciprocate the apology
  • Life is too short to continue on its journey with extra baggage
  •  It is very important to apologize in order to move forward
  •  We must take responsibility for past mistakes without blaming anyone
  •  Be sincere!

How to Go About Apologizing

The medium chosen depends on many things. You decide whether to

  • *email
  • call
  • message
  • speak in person
  • write a letter

* this will depend on the person
 
The medium shouldn’t matter for most as the aim is to apologize. You will know which medium is appropriate according to:
(1.) the situation that had transpired in the past and (2.) the person you are apologizing to. Perhaps, follow up with a call if you choose to send an email, for example.
 
Someone once illustrated unforgiveness like this… “It’s like placing the other person in a headlock but in this state, none of you can truly go anywhere.”
 
It will always be eating away at your conscience, convicting and reminding you that something is unresolved.  Don’t rob yourself of living a life with a clear conscience. Call that person(s) now, apologize and move on.
Please share your experience after you have done so.
 
Be a better human being!

Do it now! Please feel free to comment below.


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6 Replies to “How to Apologize and Move on – Let Go!”

  1. Apologizing is a hard thing to do, more than people really realize. A TRUE apology; one that is from the heart, with meaning, and reason. I’m an advocate of in person apologies (when you can) because to me that is the most difficult and most meaningful. If you truly mean what you are saying you will say it to their face, looking in their eyes. But from what you’re saying, it doesn’t matter in the way you do it, as long as you do it. I don’t know if I agree? One thing is correct – life is too short! So maybe you have a point…choose the method that works for you even if that’s via an email.

  2. Hi Vali,

    Thanks for taking the time to read the post.

    Yes it is hard to apologize but I have heard that the things that seem hard to do, may be a lot easier to do than we think. I believe the reward is far greater in the end for all involved, if we can get past the difficulty.
    In the age of tech I personally don’t think it matters how we do it, but to each his own. You could be right.

    Thanks again!

  3. What a wonderful article! Its amazing how something so simple and easy to do can reap such fabulous emotional rewards. Why do we put things off like this I wonder? Its almost like a ‘pay it forward’ surprise treat, to be able to send someone an apology. Thank you so much for the inspiration and like a Christmas card list, I’ll be creating my apology list this holiday season too!

    1. Hi Emily. Thanks so much for your kind words and your willingness to act on this.  I know you will feel as free as bird after you have done so.  Let me know how it goes.  All the best to you.

  4. For me it used to be very hard and stressful to apologize for something. Maybe it’s because of social anxiety or just because I hate that feeling when I’m wrong about something so I really had to change my mindset about this, but like you said, it’s very important to apologize in order to move forward. Great article

    1. Thanks very much for taking the time to read and share your thoughts. I am glad you are aware of the benefits of apologizing. It frees your soul and makes you feel better about yourself. Also, you get to free someone else in the process. All the best to you!

      David

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