(Last Updated On: March 8, 2018)
As you go about your daily duties, you interact with various people. Whether on your job, on the road, supermarket, in the church, you are being watched and assessed by all. Nothing is wrong with this. We can’t help it. People, (including you) can make a quick summary of the personality of others fairly quickly and determine whether they want to be around them any longer than necessary. This is how we choose our friends and sometimes, even those we do business with. We all tend to prefer to be around people who add value and are easy to get along with, rather than they who drain us mentally.
Lights, Camera, Action! Scene 1- You Are Being Observed
A popular introduction to a television series began with the words “you are being watched.” It referred to a computer network with a ‘mind’ of its own that was owned by the government and watched its citizens’ every move. This wasn’t done necessarily for the sake of spying, but to prevent crime by alerting the relevant authorities before it happened. We can learn from this and prevent a whole lot of stress in our lives by being observant in our interactions with others. Especially while pursuing long-term relationships.
Furthermore, we too are being watched. We are watched by strangers, colleagues, friends, bosses, neighbors etc. People around you are constantly assessing you. Some of the things people automatically look for include,
- your general attitude
- communication skills
- your worldview
- personal hygiene
- how you relate to others
- your goals
For business people, this assessment is more streamlined. During job interviews or otherwise, potential bosses or team-leaders assess you by means of conversation, your background, testimonies of your character and your experience, whether you would be a good fit for their team. The key factor in all of this is how you present yourself represented by the bulleted list above.
However, for people in general, this assessment or ‘judgment’ of you happens subconsciously and inadvertently. That is, whether they want to or not. Can’t it be more formal as in the business approach above? Sure it can, but for casual interaction, this is generally more instinctive than structured. It is not to be confused with outright discrimination. This is a built-in mechanism in us humans, which helps us to determine whether to like or dislike, befriend or despise, be associated with or avoid. It is how we make choices and how we choose is governed by employing tools such as wisdom, knowledge, experience and our personal preferences and values. It is our right to assess each other, albeit with some fairness, patience and not prejudice.
This is necessary, as we human beings are seeking to determine who will be given access to our sacred, inner space. It is with this criteria, that we choose our friends and social circles. Likewise, others will use it to determine whether they want to be around us as well. No one wants to be around anyone who is unproductive, narrow-minded, immature and who will make them miserable and unhappy.
We Must Judge Ourselves First – Let’s Edit!
Since you are being watched, you will have to be mindful of the image you are projecting on the world stage. This image will either prevent or attract potential relationships of any kind.
Having said that, you may be asking:
- is my best behavior my real self?
- am I being deceptive when I am on my best behavior
Interesting questions, but I believe that we should all desire to mature and develop into better human beings as a way of life. Always in a state of personal growth and advancement. That is a reasonable requirement that must be aimed for by all.
We have a responsibility to ourselves and to others, to function at our best and therefore present our best ‘self’ at all times. I know it’s not always possible, but we must strive for it.This is our standard as better human beings.
What we must be careful not to do is to project an anamorphic image of ourselves, ( a method of intentionally distorting and creating a widescreen image with standard film). An image that is wider than our origin, then to be found lacking subsequently. Unfortunately, this is the reason for many broken relationships and separation. Whether they be personal, work-related or otherwise.
You Are Being Watched, Let’s Examine Ourselves
Let’s adjust our lenses and pursue an immediate change in the areas we are lacking in character. Let us be a sparkle of light shining brighter and brighter. Let us have a positive influence on others, as our new and improved image shines for all to see. You are being watched! Be a good example for others not only to admire but to emulate.
Do it now!
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